Positive parenting

      For a bright child the atmosphere where she grows in the formative years(0-3 yrs) plays a major role:

1.        Continuity of caregivers till 3 years.

2.        Positive attitude.

3.        Unconditional love

4.        Expression of love (eye-to-eye, skin-to-skin contact till their teens)

5.         Parents as role models.

6.        Allow them to crawl, play with clay/sand (improves right brain / creative development)

7.         Tell them what to do. Avoid telling what not to do

8.         Appreciate the positives

9.         Accept their natural self

            10.       Identify your child’s learning style

He /she may be a-

 a.     Talker or auditory learner

 b.     Watcher or visual learner

 c.     Doer or tactile learner (activity based)

 d.     Combination of the above.

11.      Discover your child’s talents & motivate

12.      Ask what they like to do

13.      Listen

14.      Treat them as individual

15.    Teach them to set short term & long term goals

16.      Appreciate them in public, correct their mistakes personally

17.      Help them in choosing their goals

18.      Demonstrate time management

19.      Make them understand the value of money & savings

20.      They learn values & discipline taking parents as role models

21.      Respect to elders. Time spending with elders

22.      Dad & mom should be one unit

23.      Never criticize, argue or fight with your spouse in front of the child

24.      Happiness of the child is in the happiness of parental relationship

25.      Spending quality family time is important (cooking, cleaning etc., together)

26.      Be approachable (especially in teens)

27.      Inspire & encourage

28.      Gain your child’s respect & confidence

29.      Play / party with his friends

30.      Teach them to accept failures (involve in sports, team activity)

31.      They long for your touch, kiss & hug

32.      Every child is unique.

33.      Avoid :

a)    Comparison

b)    Using force

c)    Teasing / criticism

d)    Over expectation

34.         Its okay to:

a)    Do mistakes

b)    Express anger

c)    Be different from other kids

d)    Prefer requesting your kids than ordering

35.         Create interest in healthy eating habits

36.         Cultivate reading habits

37.         Adopt play way teaching, not lecturing

38.         Don’t aim at winning arguments

39.         Inculcate problem solving & decision making skills

40.         Demonstrate –

a)    Ethical code of conduct

b)    Healthy life style

c)    Social obligations

d)    Customs & manners

e)    Culture & tradition

f)     Cleanliness & hygienic

41.         Road rules could be taught practically, than through books

42.         Toilet training can be given from infant stage (within 2 yrs)

43.         Let them know about sexual harassment

44.         Let them enjoy helping the needy, doing service & learn spirituality

45.         Regulate TV time

WHAT IS UNHEALTHY PARENTING?

1.     Pushing frequently, harshly / unfairly

2.     Criticizing / interfering with child’s interest / activity

3.     Showing little interest in his/her activity

4.     Molding in particular pattern

5.     Unrealistic expectation

6.      Criticizing failures

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